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I would also like to say to every TD that does not manage these situations well May be after the session you should take it upon yourself, to discretly talk to the offending person and clamly explain what it is that you wish the other person to be aware of and thet they are upsetting other people do not expect success everytime, but you will have some successes and I can assure you there is nothing more gratifying that having people come up to afterwards (may be even years) and saying, at the time, I did not like what you said, no one had ever said that sort of thing to me before, but you were right and I appreciate the fact you helped me then and it has had a positive effect on my life afterwards.

my job is working in warehousing and I manage lots of people everyday, the type of person I deal with is not what you would call at the top of the evolutionary scale, (that is not quite true of my current role though) I have over the years found that peoples bad behaviour is only there because of other peoples inability to tackle the situation, either through lack of condfindence (and this applies to some very successful people you would think shirk at nothing) or fear of how the other person will react. This may sound rather odd to a lot of you here, but some people are genuinely appauled by the thought that they are rude or more precisely they are perceived as rude. someone who gives advice out to people they do not know at the bridge table, are they really rude or are they misguidedly trying to be helpful and not showing off a superior attitude? has anyone ever said to them, stop, think what you are saying, think of the other persons feelings and the way you have put yourstatement across. I admit I am not always this understanding myself and I can be rude and abrupt to people when I want to be, but at least I am aware of why I do it some times and it is usually deliberate rather than unintentional, THe next time some one is rude at the table, try and take the time to message them privately and explain slowly and calmly why you do not like this behaviour and remember be polite and non offensive, I will guarentee it works often enough to make you want to try it again. We had someone swear at a table the other day, and I explained that the ladies present did not like that language and we are enjoying the game, he was welcome to stay if he changes his behaviour, an hour later we all said goodbye to what turned out to be someone we would all like to sit at a table with again There are no guarentees that this works everytime, but I assure you . if you try it and it works once, you will feel differently about your ability to manage rudeness at the table

The problem with rude people, is they are only rude because people ignore the problem and do nothing about it. Most people do not actually think they are being rude, they put it down to character traits and thats they way I am. if you do not point out someones offensive or bad mannered behaviour, they will carry on doing it, it is quite easy actually to deal with, just sit someone down and talk to them in decent manner, explain the problem to them and ask them to change their behaviour, you will be quite suprised at the reaction of some people, who genuinely do not realise how other people see them on the other hand, I find punching some of them in the mouth works quite effectively, but I would not recommend this as the last time I did it, I got fined £200

I was refering to the names crammed up on the right and the spacing for the names on the tables

I would be grateful if you can open the forums link in a new window please Fred why are the yellows green, now you are confusing me on the screen displaying the tables, The spacing is a major YUK, not that good for us optically challenged people flashing Vugraph does not look pretty and it appears to be black ? all opinions here are bias and bigotted but meant with good intention :)

I think you are talking rubbish and I list my reasons below 1/.<CENSORED> peoples right not to be offended act 2006<CENSORED> 2/.<CENSORED>peoples right not to be misinformed act 2006.<CENSORED> 3/.<CENSORED>European human rights not to be aware that some may or may not be offended but we are unwilling to take the chance act 2006.<CENSORED> 4/.<CENSORED>The US you will do as you are told, we are the mightiest nation on earth (not for much longer Mr Moa thinks smuggly in his grave) act 2006.<CENSORED>

Hi all Update time currently (that is today) we have 37 single rooms and 3 double rooms booked at the hotel and deposits paid, we have approximately 20 + people that are seriously considering coming and one from the states. there is a list of most of the attendees, some people do not wish their ID to be listed (so I have to respect their wishes) If you are undecided wheter to come or not, please think about it, I spent part of last weekend with the TD we have for the weekend and I was suitably impressed with the friendliness and professional manner in which the weekend went. There will be loads of bridge and loads of time to relax and socialise, please come to this meeting and meet your friends or take the opportunity to meet new friends, I intend to make this an annual gathering and I will do everything I can to to maintain the integrity of the weekend. Primary focus is to enjoy each others company, secondary is to enjoy some bridge If you are unable to come, please tell people about it, the more the merrier http://www.geocities.com/incognito_uk_2000/

wrong link :0

My pard had denied a spade control and a club control and he had shown the AK diamonds so he must have the A heats so there was never a danger that we were missing two aces, I do not see your point here with the original bidding and I took a view that he had teh Q hearts also as he is a pretty reliable partner and would not cue both diamonds on a minimum opener

then I bid 3hearts ( which agrees 3 heart support) which after my 2/1 game forcing bid, shows a stronger hand than bidding 4 hearts and we can then perhaps have a little bit of cuebidding i.e. 4!D which may tempt me to bid 4 spades or try a 4nt bid 3nt would not be to play with two fits, it would show serious slam interest (dam I hope that is right ) and a cue bid would show just some interest in slam

Happy Birthday Mike

WHOA. I find having an affair and deceiving your partner very bad, it is not playing stupid games whilst I agree stalkers should be warned away from that behaviour on BBO and I think abuse is an excellent way to do this. I feel the blackmail threats are tough, I have no sympathy for any old slapper that deceives her husband, just for a few jollies, she should go to the police AND IF SHE CANT , THEN SHE HAS JUST LEARNT WHY BLACKMAIL IS SO EFFECTIVE. An old saying goes "if you can't do the time don't do the crime" Stalkers are easy to avoid on BBO black them out or go to abuse, BBO do not have a responsibility to to do anything other than enforce their own rules

4 clubs, 3 clubs is a better suit for me

4 spades it fits my 8 or 7/4 dist and it is a lot better than some of the crap I would bid 4 spades on

I have a question, why should I bid 1spade (I never thought about 2spades as a bid) when we have a fit, surely showing the fit is the most important thing. if we dont have a 4/4 spade fit, I may have to bid hearts and we may be to high for pard to know I have 3 not 2 as a preference (or am I in danger of thinking to much here) also the 2/1 non suit creates a GF and leaves room open to get to the right spot (which I am not sure I did) also after pard had shown AK diamonds I thought slam was at worse 50% on a finese, was this wrong assumption also? I would be interested in the statistics for 1 heart opener and pard having 3 card heart support and both pards having 4 spades each, how often you actually miss the 4/4 spade fit with a 5/3 heart fit

I know a few good Bordellos if you need some numbers

I never for one minute thought it was you, but we all know this behaviour goes on in the real world, I dont understand why bridge should be exempt, some of the rudest and nastiest, self opinionated people I have ever come across in my life seem to play bridge, so I am sure we have some stalkers amongst us

I am curious here, should you not alert crash anyway?

hahaha surely, they would have weighed all this up before they decide to have an affair, they do not have my sympathies here. but overall, I agree stalkers are unwelcomed and should not be encouraged, but this phenomenum is quite rife over the internet and it is your service provider you should be talking to or your local police force (that is if you have not taken it too far and made it impossible to manage with out your other half finding out) Some easy steps to follow going forward 1/. Do not give out your home details 2/. Do not give out your persoal details 3/. Do not have affairs, break your marriage up first before you decide to get your kit off for the first man that flatters you for years and makes you feel good about yourself 4/. On the other hand there are an awful lot of people that are decent and well worth meeting face to face on the internet

ok I may be dumb here but if 2 diamond bid is forcing (BUT NOT to game) then 2 hearts is a forced response why is 3 clubs not asking for pard to pick a preference for clubs and diamonds (which means 3 clubs is passable

agree with jilly here, I have about 9 names, some I would like to get rid of, I would lik ethe option to have two though

This is something else I do not understand, why is it assumed that everyone wants to get to the top in this game, is not just being able to play for pleasure the point of bridge a social game new issue May be this is why the ACBL is so popular, the only people that slight the ACBL are jealous of the success the people that run it, people that do have great sucess usually have lots of critics and most of them, do it through jealousy or feelings of inadequacy. I wondered if you actually put it to a vote of members of the ACBL, whether or not the majority of them think that the ACBL does a good job and that masterpoints are good for the future of bridge, as it actually gives someone something to aim for, may be most people want to earn masterpoints because whilst they know they will never be Fred Gitleman or Zia or anyone of that calibre, they can aspire to something that gives them some personal satisfaction and the only bad thing about bridge is the critics

ok thats one you can name out of a total off how many million bridge players ? poor % I rest my case you will have to do better than that

28 is not young under 25 is young I rest my case nor is 27 :D

hm,. I may have to start a women in bridge thread if you keep picking on me rainy