I think the problem is that there are many pairs who do not know that "no agreement" is an adequate response to these questions (provided you have no explicit or implicit agreement). For such a pair, the questions will seem like an attempt at fishing a ruling if their response is "wrong". Luckily, in games where players are ignorant of the rules usually don't matter, so I would only ask (and expect to hear a reasonable answer) in higher-standard games, compared to your average club night or low tables of a national event.