Bank_robb Posted July 15, 2021 Report Share Posted July 15, 2021 How to warning rude player? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mycroft Posted July 15, 2021 Report Share Posted July 15, 2021 depending on how bad the comment is:- warn them in response- leave the table- if host, boot them- report to abuse@bridgebase.com Unfortunately, rudeness is endemic in bridge, and rudeness is endemic in online interactions. That doesn't mean you have to put up with it, at least the second time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AL78 Posted July 15, 2021 Report Share Posted July 15, 2021 It is ironic that rudeness is endemic in bridge, a game dominated by retired people. In my youth, it was common to hear of elderly people complaining about the bad manners of young people, and how young people have no respect. I don't think there is any generational difference in behaviour at all, or if there is, it is tiny. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pilowsky Posted July 16, 2021 Report Share Posted July 16, 2021 It is ironic that rudeness is endemic in bridge, a game dominated by retired people. In my youth, it was common to hear of elderly people complaining about the bad manners of young people, and how young people have no respect. I don't think there is any generational difference in behaviour at all, or if there is, it is tiny. Aren't the young people that your 'elderly people' were complaining about now the retired people that OP is talking about?Perhaps the post-war boomer generation does - for some unknown reason - have a 'rudeness' problem?The internet has 'anonymised' rudeness so that it is easier to act out.If sites such as BBO mandated real names, it might inhibit aggressive rudeness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AL78 Posted July 16, 2021 Report Share Posted July 16, 2021 Aren't the young people that your 'elderly people' were complaining about now the retired people that OP is talking about? No, The retired people now would be in their late 40's to 60's when I was young (late teens/early 20's) so middle aged/mature, not young. As I said I don't think demograph has anything to do with it. An arsehole is an arsehole no matter how old they are. You have summed it up by mentioning anonymity. Some people have only a thin veneer of civility in public beneath which is there true nasty side, and the absence of consequences allows this nasty side to come to the surface. You are probably right that if people online could be identified it would reduce rudeness, but then you get into privacy and safety issues. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nige1 Posted July 16, 2021 Report Share Posted July 16, 2021 How to warning rude player? Warnings rarely work but you can try:In a tournament with a TD, report them to the TD. Recommend the TD to his NBO, in the vanishingly unlikely event that any meaningful sanction is imposed.Report them to abuse@bridgebase.comMark their profile as "Ignore" with an appropriate factual (non-libellous) "Note" of the date and offence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chas_P Posted July 16, 2021 Report Share Posted July 16, 2021 Bridge is essentially a social game, but unfortunately it attracts a substantial number of antisocial people.Alan Truscott Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackshoe Posted July 16, 2021 Report Share Posted July 16, 2021 Bridge is essentially a social game, but unfortunately it attracts a substantial number of antisocial people.Alan Truscott I like this. I'm gonna steal it. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pilowsky Posted July 17, 2021 Report Share Posted July 17, 2021 I like this. I'm gonna steal it. :-) It's a misunderstanding of the word 'social'.Bridge is only 'social' in the sense that to play it two people need to understand each other better than two other people.The use of the word 'social' to mean 'friendly' doesn't apply in a competitive sport.After the game - at the pub - there might be some friendliness.Ants, dogs (but not cats) and sheep are also social. Dogs can be friendly, but it's pretty transactional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chas_P Posted July 17, 2021 Report Share Posted July 17, 2021 I like this. I'm gonna steal it. :-)You are welcome to it, my friend. I only regret not being the originator. But kudos to Truscott for his observation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chas_P Posted July 18, 2021 Report Share Posted July 18, 2021 The use of the word 'social' to mean 'friendly' doesn't apply in a competitive sport.And then there's Sheinwold: Since the average person's small supply of politeness must last him all hislife, he can't afford to waste it on bridge partners.Alfred Sheinwold Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AL78 Posted July 18, 2021 Report Share Posted July 18, 2021 And then there's Sheinwold: Since the average person's small supply of politeness must last him all hislife, he can't afford to waste it on bridge partners.Alfred Sheinwold Now that is a good one. :lol: :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackshoe Posted July 18, 2021 Report Share Posted July 18, 2021 It is indeed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pescetom Posted July 18, 2021 Report Share Posted July 18, 2021 And since the average person's small supply of attention must last him all day, he can't afford to waste it on bridge partners signals or lead directions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chas_P Posted July 18, 2021 Report Share Posted July 18, 2021 And since the average person's small supply of attention must last him all day, he can't afford to waste it on bridge partners signals or lead directions.Well yeah, there's that too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barmar Posted July 20, 2021 Report Share Posted July 20, 2021 It's a misunderstanding of the word 'social'.Puns stop being funny if you analyze them. Try to understand the aphorism as it was intended. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pilowsky Posted July 20, 2021 Report Share Posted July 20, 2021 Puns stop being funny if you analyze them. Try to understand the aphorism as it was intended. You seem to misunderstand my comment.People often describe Bridge as a social game - which it is in the sense that I described above.Newcomers to the game are sometimes misled into thinking that by 'social', people mean 'friendly'.Bridge players can be friendly or unfriendly, but that has nothing to do with the 'social nature of the game.The use of the term 'social' wrt Bridge is not the word's usual meaning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mycroft Posted July 20, 2021 Report Share Posted July 20, 2021 Puns stop being funny if you analyze them. Try to understand the aphorism as it was intended. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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