How do I find a partner?

[deisenbe]

I'm about to give up on online bridge. I don't have an online partner and have no idea how to find one.

 

At in-person bridge events, finding partners for those without one is routine. Here, all I can do is sit at a table with people I don't know and won't ever get to know or play with again.

 

This is no fun. My impression of BBO is that it is novice-unfriendly.

 

Is there no help for me here in matching me with an appropriate partner?

[mycroft]

You're just in a much bigger club, one without an incentive to provide a "partner for single players'.

 

Note that in-person, it's not at all "routine", it's very very well managed (by a well-managed club) and frequently well compensated (the big club I used to direct at paid me (among other things) to partner up people according to what I felt would be best for all, and encouraged players to be "this game's spare" (*) by offering them a free game with a partner of their own choice for every day they spared). There's a *lot* of work going into new player retention. If you don't believe me, you will after the local tournament taps you to be partnership co-ordinator for the next one.

 

Yes, you are accurately describing how BBO works. They have thousands of players looking to sit down and punch some cards for an hour or so, with whoever (although they're hoping for someone slightly better than them basically at their level as partner). The way you find compatible players (besides hoping that the compatibility stars are right - they are at least better than nothing) is exactly how you said, playing with people you will never see; except that if you do like them, you follow them, and maybe ask them to play again. If they're awful, make sure you don't.

 

There is an organization, BIL, which exists for novice players - and it is *very* friendly. Look that up.

 

But my real advice is the one I gave in https://www.bridgebase.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=82589&view=findpost&p=996246 . You at least have *a* partner from the club you like, right? Get together with them, and play against whoever shows up. Pay attention to them, and you will in time find other people you are compatible with, just like you did at the club. The good news is that instead of "remembering faces", you can write notes in their user record for next time, and can follow them on the spot "for later".

 

(*) who was expected to show up every week, and play with whoever didn't get paired up - usually the worst or most obnoxious player; or filled in a table with either the TD or the person the TD strongarmed into playing, 5 minutes after game time; or went home without a game. Opinions on which option was preferred can be sent to Anybody But Us.

[deisenbe]

How do I find BIL?

[AL78]

How do I find BIL?

 

https://www.bilbridge.com/

[mycroft]

Thanks AL78. For reasons (including, but not limited to, "I'm not B or I any more") I didn't know that. But I knew someone would.

[deisenbe]

I'm giving up on online bridge. A I perceive it, it's unfriendly and sterile, and oriented towards more serious players than me

 

I went to BIL, and thanks for the recommendation. It does seem more oriented toward players at my level, but they not only say but emphasize they do not want any chatting.

 

My closed club, which has vague thoughts of someday reopening, directed me to the ACBL virtual clubs. I can't even understand the listings and there is no help I can find. I know I could probably type out a list of the acronyms and words I don't know (barometer?) and bother someone for explanations, but it leaves me feeling unwelcome.

 

I'm more interested in meeting people, as I did at my local club, than in playing tournaments. BBO is not set up for that, as you said yourself. Here on forums there is "find a partner" but it's dead.

 

My usual partner from my local club is unable do do something online like this. I tried teaching her, but it didn't work. She's 86 and not very computer-savvy.

 

I tried, but for me it's not fun to play with 3 other people none of whom I know and whom I can't talk to, in a game that moves very quickly, That's not the kind of bridge I enjoy.

[AL78]

I'm giving up on online bridge. A I perceive it, it's unfriendly and sterile, and oriented towards more serious players than me

 

I went to BIL, and thanks for the recommendation. It does seem more oriented toward players at my level, but they not only say but emphasize they do not want any chatting.

 

My closed club, which has vague thoughts of someday reopening, directed me to the ACBL virtual clubs. I can't even understand the listings and there is no help I can find. I know I could probably type out a list of the acronyms and words I don't know (barometer?) and bother someone for explanations, but it leaves me feeling unwelcome.

 

I'm more interested in meeting people, as I did at my local club, than in playing tournaments. BBO is not set up for that, as you said yourself. Here on forums there is "find a partner" but it's dead.

 

My usual partner from my local club is unable do do something online like this. I tried teaching her, but it didn't work. She's 86 and not very computer-savvy.

 

I tried, but for me it's not fun to play with 3 other people none of whom I know and whom I can't talk to, in a game that moves very quickly, That's not the kind of bridge I enjoy.

 

I know what you mean with your last sentence, it is more like playing a computer game than social interaction.

 

Does your local club not have a partner finding facility? I doubt you are only one in this situation. What you need is someone within your club to match singletons looking for a game, my local club has this facility.

 

Funny you should say you think the game moves very quickly. So far when I have been playing at my local club within BBO, I have found the opposite. Yesterday evening, when we finished a round I was playing Lemmings whilst waiting for the next round. That is one advantage of online bridge, it is easy to occupy yourself whilst you wait for everyone else to finish a round.

[BabsG]

There is a teacher offering great lessons for his club members on BBO - and they are free. The lessons are geared to beginner/intermediate players and lots of people attend each session. I am an intermediate and learn something every session.

 

His name is Kevin Wilson - his BBO IS is 'grypho'. The lessons are on Mondays, Wednesdays and Saturdays at Noon New York Time and he LOVES when people chat. He also runs virtual games and provides post-mortems after each.

 

Maybe come try out the lessons. Who knows, you may find a partner or he may be able to suggest someone who might be interested.

 

Please don't give up. There are lots of us out there who are friendly and looking for people to play with on a regular basis. Beats going to the main and having opps and partners changing every board.

[rocklady]

When I try to join a table with my partner, my computer tells me she is not logged on but I am talking to her on the phone and her computer tells her the same about me. I also cannot even add friends to my name. Please help me--I am tired of playing with robots.

[Vampyr]

When I try to join a table with my partner, my computer tells me she is not logged on but I am talking to her on the phone and her computer tells her the same about me. I also cannot even add friends to my name. Please help me--I am tired of playing with robots.

 

The problem might be that one of you is at the main site and the other in casual. They are invisible to each other.

[CeciD]

I'm giving up on online bridge. A I perceive it, it's unfriendly and sterile, and oriented towards more serious players than me

 

I went to BIL, and thanks for the recommendation. It does seem more oriented toward players at my level, but they not only say but emphasize they do not want any chatting.

 

My closed club, which has vague thoughts of someday reopening, directed me to the ACBL virtual clubs. I can't even understand the listings and there is no help I can find. I know I could probably type out a list of the acronyms and words I don't know (barometer?) and bother someone for explanations, but it leaves me feeling unwelcome.

 

I'm more interested in meeting people, as I did at my local club, than in playing tournaments. BBO is not set up for that, as you said yourself. Here on forums there is "find a partner" but it's dead.

 

My usual partner from my local club is unable do do something online like this. I tried teaching her, but it didn't work. She's 86 and not very computer-savvy.

 

I tried, but for me it's not fun to play with 3 other people none of whom I know and whom I can't talk to, in a game that moves very quickly, That's not the kind of bridge I enjoy.

 

 

I have finally (it took quite awhile) found a foursome who all enjoy playing together. Don't give up, it really does take time. We open a Skype call simultaneously so we can chat and it is more social. I doubt strangers would want to do that, as the way we do it involves clicking an emailed link the first time. You would want to make sure you really trusted the sender to make sure it wasn't a bad link. It seems likely that almost everyone on BBO is trying to find compatible players. Keep trying. I was discouraged for quite awhile, but now am glad I didn't give up.

[ds98]

I'm about to give up on online bridge. I don't have an online partner and have no idea how to find one.

 

At in-person bridge events, finding partners for those without one is routine. Here, all I can do is sit at a table with people I don't know and won't ever get to know or play with again.

 

This is no fun. My impression of BBO is that it is novice-unfriendly.

 

Is there no help for me here in matching me with an appropriate partner?

 

I am looking for a partner, as well. I am at novice/beginner level. Please send me a message at 'ds98'

[abriteguy]

I'm about to give up on online bridge. I don't have an online partner and have no idea how to find one.

 

At in-person bridge events, finding partners for those without one is routine. Here, all I can do is sit at a table with people I don't know and won't ever get to know or play with again.

 

This is no fun. My impression of BBO is that it is novice-unfriendly.

 

Is there no help for me here in matching me with an appropriate partner?

 

I too am looking for a partner

Email me at abriteguy@aol.com

Dr. Daniel Stein

Bellmore, NY

[JOPLEN904]

There is a teacher offering great lessons for his club members on BBO - and they are free. The lessons are geared to beginner/intermediate players and lots of people attend each session. I am an intermediate and learn something every session.

 

His name is Kevin Wilson - his BBO IS is 'grypho'. The lessons are on Mondays, Wednesdays and Saturdays at Noon New York Time and he LOVES when people chat. He also runs virtual games and provides post-mortems after each.

 

Maybe come try out the lessons. Who knows, you may find a partner or he may be able to suggest someone who might be interested.

 

Please don't give up. There are lots of us out there who are friendly and looking for people to play with on a regular basis. Beats going to the main and having opps and partners changing every board.

Hi BabsG

Read your note about Kevin. How do I join his class? my name is 'JOPLEN904 '

[thepossum]

When people say they are novices or beginners. What level do they play at

 

I don't regard myself as advanced but started playing many decades ago ad am looking for other experienced novices such as myself.

 

Hard finding good competent intermediate/advanced people who don't get upset at beginner level errors from time to time

 

Certainly not sitting in a class. Thats no fun either

 

I end up resorting to GiB most days. Occasionally if feeling brave I drop into a random table, play a few hands and then run away

 

In the old days people used to sit in pubs, tea and coffee shops, playing cards. Don't see it much anymore :(

 

Maybe go into your favorite establishment, get a nice table, order a nice craft beer, deal a few hands, play them yourself even, try to get noticed and see if anyone asks to join in or asks what you are doing :)

 

These days some awful person would rush over and spray you and your pack of cards with disinfectant or something like that

 

... or you would see 4 people sitting round a table together playing on BBO - funny if they were all sharing the same WiFi. There would be the sound of sirens followed by a raid from international Bridge enforcers

[Gilithin]

When people say they are novices or beginners. What level do they play at

Officially, a novice is someone that has played for <6 months and a beginner is someone that has played for <12 months. After a year you are automatically an intermediate and stay there until you are regularly being successful in tournaments. That means that almost everyone that plays on BBO is an intermediate, including those that self-rate as Beginner, Advanced and Expert. Basically just ignore all self-ratings and instead look at their last month of results. It is a far better indicator of level.

[CeciD]

I play once a week with a wonderful foursome, but lately there are days (esp cold ones like today!) when I would like to go in and find a table of strangers where I would fit. On those days I go onto the open tables on relaxed bridge club and click on names to see if there are any people who self-identify as beginner and also play the convention I play. When I find such a person, I send them a chat asking if I might join their table in an open seat. THIS HAS NEVER WORKED. I have been playing for 2 years, but still am low on the beginner spectrum (evidenced by the questions on here being above me.) Therefore I hate to go the "first seat available" route. I don't want to join the BIL because I am on a low budget. I'll bet there are more people like me on BBO!

[thepossum]

I will call myself an Intermediate if that makes people happier but I prefer a different definition of Novice

[CeciD]

I will call myself an Intermediate if that makes people happier but I prefer a different definition of Novice

 

None of us should be unhappy with your (or anyone else's) self-rating! I personally reserve unhappiness for much larger things. And I suppose BBO tries to match people. If it were possible, I'd like to see a "take me to first seat available" that was just for the relaxed bridge club. Maybe then it might take me to a seat where people wouldn't mind my mistakes. However, I am very glad that there is an online place to play!

[thepossum]

The problem is that no BBO ratings apply so I'm stuck🙂

[Gilithin]

The problem is that no BBO ratings apply so I'm stuck🙂

Let me see if I can help you:

 

Q1: Have you played bridge for less than 6 months? Y->Novice; N->Q2

Q2: Have you played bridge for less than 12 months? Y->Beginner; N->Q3

Q3: Have you played in international competitions? Y-> World Class; N-> Q4

Q4: Have you been successful in national-level competitions? Y->Expert; N-> Q5

Q5: Are you regularly successful in bridge tournaments? Y->Advanced; N->Intermediate

 

I would hazard a pretty strong guess that you are Intermediate but how you choose to self-evaluate is a personal matter between you, your conscience and your ego.

[theonlydon]

How do I find a partner for online Bridge? My previous partner moved to Mexico and I don't have much luck waiting to get a partner for each game. Anyone interested can email me at theonlydonhalpert@gmail.com

My user name for BBO is "theonlydon"

[thepossum]

Let me see if I can help you:

 

Q1: Have you played bridge for less than 6 months? Y->Novice; N->Q2

Q2: Have you played bridge for less than 12 months? Y->Beginner; N->Q3

Q3: Have you played in international competitions? Y-> World Class; N-> Q4

Q4: Have you been successful in national-level competitions? Y->Expert; N-> Q5

Q5: Are you regularly successful in bridge tournaments? Y->Advanced; N->Intermediate

 

I would hazard a pretty strong guess that you are Intermediate but how you choose to self-evaluate is a personal matter between you, your conscience and your ego.

 

Apparently I am World Class 😂

 

...but I am sure I fall into the huge amorphous blob of Intermediate prone to Beginner errors and occasional moments of advanced or even expert brilliance

 

How did he setup that endplay. I don't know

[AL78]

Officially, a novice is someone that has played for <6 months and a beginner is someone that has played for <12 months. After a year you are automatically an intermediate and stay there until you are regularly being successful in tournaments. That means that almost everyone that plays on BBO is an intermediate, including those that self-rate as Beginner, Advanced and Expert. Basically just ignore all self-ratings and instead look at their last month of results. It is a far better indicator of level.

 

I thought the beginner and novice definitions would be the other way around. A beginner by the literal interpretation of the word is someone who is beginning, so surely should have the shortest playing experience. I am reluctant to define standards purely by length of playing experience. In my experience, bridge students straight out of third year bridge classes are still playing like beginners for many months, if not years, and by that I mean they haven't got a grasp of the fundamentals of either bidding or card play.

[AL78]

Let me see if I can help you:

 

Q1: Have you played bridge for less than 6 months? Y->Novice; N->Q2

Q2: Have you played bridge for less than 12 months? Y->Beginner; N->Q3

Q3: Have you played in international competitions? Y-> World Class; N-> Q4

Q4: Have you been successful in national-level competitions? Y->Expert; N-> Q5

Q5: Are you regularly successful in bridge tournaments? Y->Advanced; N->Intermediate

 

I would hazard a pretty strong guess that you are Intermediate but how you choose to self-evaluate is a personal matter between you, your conscience and your ego.

 

I would class myself as intermediate but I rarely do well at my local club these days, so my results point more towards advanced beginner/novice or weak intermediate at best.