Fluffy Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 This will be my first christmas as a married man, my wife had been insisting that with all the economic problems we have we should avoid making any presents, wich I can't agree more, not because of the financial crisis, but because I hate shopping. But yesterday she appeared with a gift "from santa" (or the spannish equivalent) for me, and makes it obvious that I should buy something for her. Wich means going shoppin on december 23rd, Sunday. Can there be a worse day for this?, but more important: should I had foreseen this coming? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PassedOut Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 But yesterday she appeared with a gift "from santa" (or the spannish equivalent) for me, and makes it obvious that I should buy something for her. Wich means going shoppin on december 23rd, Sunday. Can there be a worse day for this?, but more important: should I had foreseen this coming?Yes. But Merry Christmas to you anyway! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenberg Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 This will be my first christmas as a married man, my wife had been insisting that with all the economic problems we have we should avoid making any presents, wich I can't agree more, not because of the financial crisis, but because I hate shopping. But yesterday she appeared with a gift "from santa" (or the spannish equivalent) for me, and makes it obvious that I should buy something for her. Wich means going shoppin on december 23rd, Sunday. Can there be a worse day for this?, but more important: should I had foreseen this coming? It is very important that men understand that when a woman says no she means no. Except when she says she doesn't want anything for her birthday or for Christmas. Merry Christmas. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMB1 Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 Except when she says she doesn't want anything for her birthday or for Christmas. Especially if she says its because we can't afford it. But I think even asking the internet for advice on understanding the woman (or other significant other) in your life is likely to get the OP into more trouble. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paulg Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 I expect there is a similar rant on forums.bridgewidows.com 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hanoi5 Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 Yes, you have to buy her something. And yes, you should have seen it coming and be prepared. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cascade Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 How did she make it obvious? Did you have the discussion 'we said we wouldn't buy anything'? If so what was her response? Buy her flowers :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aberlour10 Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 but more important: should I had foreseen this coming? a) married < 6 months - Not necessarily b) married 6-24 months - You should not be surprised at least c) married > 2 years - You should, just in this second in which she said her statement about the gifts :rolleyes: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jillybean Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 How did she make it obvious? Did you have the discussion 'we said we wouldn't buy anything'? If so what was her response? Buy her flowers :)FYP Buy her diamonds :) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fluffy Posted December 23, 2012 Author Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 How did she make it obvious?It was something like.... may I open that? not untill you buy something for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PassedOut Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 It was something like.... may I open that? not untill you buy something for me. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenberg Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 FYP Buy her diamonds :) Yes, it is important to get the woman's view on these things. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
y66 Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 I mentioned OP's predicament to 4 women today. The consensus is that "no presents" means "not a lot of presents or no expensive presents". They suggested lingerie, a silk or wool scarf, a cute hat, chocolates or perfume. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLOGIC Posted December 23, 2012 Report Share Posted December 23, 2012 Take it to the lolwomen containment thread Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barmar Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 should I had foreseen this coming?Every year there's usually a couple of Xmas episodes of TV shows (usually sitcoms) where the couple agree not to buy presents. What happened to you always happens to them. Who says TV isn't an educational medium? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gerben42 Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 You had it coming :) To quote her next move: "Nothing doesn't mean nothing at all, right?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ggwhiz Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 This is right up there with "Does this make me look fat?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bbradley62 Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 This is right up there with "Does this make me look fat?"No, Mama, the dress doesn't make you look fat... it's your hips... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cherdano Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 1. You have a very understanding wife - she was aware that she should indicate her understanding of the deal a couple of days before. And she knew subtle hints would not be enough. You should be grateful! 2. I assume you realize this lesson doesn't only apply to Christmas. If she "really doesn't want anything" for your anniversary, she still won't mind large, beautiful bouquet of flowers, and you coming up with an enjoyable plan for the day. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lalldonn Posted December 24, 2012 Report Share Posted December 24, 2012 Lol poor fluffy, yes you should have seen this coming. GL man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jjbrr Posted December 25, 2012 Report Share Posted December 25, 2012 I mentioned OP's predicament to 4 women today. The consensus is that "no presents" means "not a lot of presents or no expensive presents". They suggested lingerie, a silk or wool scarf, a cute hat, chocolates or perfume. I see, so when they said "not a lot" or "not expensive" they cited lingerie, silk, and perfume as their alternatives. Sorry, y66, but this is exactly what got OP in trouble. They couldn't explicitly say that they expect gold and diamonds; that would be "unreasonable" or "materialistic" or whatever word it is they use to justify their alternatives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VMars Posted December 25, 2012 Report Share Posted December 25, 2012 Honestly, all women are different. When I say I don't want presents, it means that I do not want presents, and you won't be getting any from me. But I do think that you should know what your wife means by "I don't want presents". 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debrose Posted December 25, 2012 Report Share Posted December 25, 2012 Honestly, all women are different. When I say I don't want presents, it means that I do not want presents, and you won't be getting any from me. But I do think that you should know what your wife means by "I don't want presents".[/quote Plus one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bbradley62 Posted December 25, 2012 Report Share Posted December 25, 2012 I mentioned OP's predicament to 4 women today. The consensus is that "no presents" means "not a lot of presents or no expensive presents". They suggested lingerie, a silk or wool scarf, a cute hat, chocolates or perfume.I see, so when they said "not a lot" or "not expensive" they cited lingerie, silk, and perfume as their alternatives. Sorry, y66, but this is exactly what got OP in trouble. They couldn't explicitly say that they expect gold and diamonds; that would be "unreasonable" or "materialistic" or whatever word it is they use to justify their alternatives.Sorry, jjbrr, but all of the items mentioned by y66's female friends can be bought at Macy's for under $40, which is consistent with the description "not a lot of presents or no expensive presents". They do not expect gold or diamonds. Yes, a married man is simply supposed to know these things (or be clever enough to ask for advice well in advance). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackshoe Posted December 25, 2012 Report Share Posted December 25, 2012 Yes, a married man is simply supposed to know these things (or be clever enough to ask for advice well in advance).Of course. After all, he got the two week orientation course, right? :P 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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