Cascade Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 How about "my man"? Yeah she owns him right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gwnn Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 Leases on occasion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aberlour10 Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 Sugar Daddy seriously that is what we called them in Chicago, several girls in the office had them. The whole world knows this since Kelly Bundy has had several dates with them heh :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gordontd Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 Is there an actual term used in this sense?Pension plan? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahh Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 In the far North East of Scotland the local dialect is Doric and we have no trouble announcing a person with whom we are in relationship but are not married to ---- they are called our 'Bidey in ' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazy4hoop Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 Bill Clinton... Philanderer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenberg Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 I have made a couple of flippand responses. If I were to try for serious I suppose I would ask more about the context. Marriages vary. If husband and wife have long since gone their separate ways but remain married for any of various practical reasons, then I woould see no objection to boyfriend. They won't be getting married, but so what. But we usually do not speak of the woman as a mistress in such a case. In fact, she is called his girlfriend. The fact of the marriage is a technicality. Some of course would object on moral grounds, but people have been making such arrangements sinc marriage began. Calling her a mistress suggests to me that the marriage is intact, the guy simply wants an extra and for some reason his wife has agreed to this arrangement. My wife would not, I assure you, and I really have no direct experience with this sort of thing. I read "The Adventures of Augie March" a thousand years ago when I was in college. I seem to remember a description of, I think< Augie's brother or cousin or something: "He took a mistress to get away from his wife and found himself with two wives". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vampyr Posted October 14, 2012 Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 Calling her a mistress suggests to me that the marriage is intact, the guy simply wants an extra and for some reason his wife has agreed to this arrangement. Why do you assume the wife knows? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenberg Posted October 14, 2012 Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 The wife always knows! No, of course she might not. But the op discussed the proper term to use. This suggests that we are speaking of an acknowledged relationship. If the relationship is not acknowledged, I would say the proper term is silence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winstonm Posted October 14, 2012 Author Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 He is too old to be a boy. No one knows if the wife knows. Man friend? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenberg Posted October 14, 2012 Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 Or maybe just friend. Seriously, if the wife doesn't know, or might not know, or would like be unknowing, I would go with friend. I see nothing against it. Her is a friend, and beyond that, I see no need for precision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vampyr Posted October 14, 2012 Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 If the relationship is not acknowledged, I would say the proper term is silence. ...He is a friend, and beyond that, I see no need for precision. Both good points. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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