Etiquette-BBO help finding a game

[gifster]

If one follows BBO instructions to "find me a game", one is thrust directly into the middle of someone else's game! This seems very rude to me. What should one do etiquette-wise to:

1)Find out if they need/want you after you say hi

2)Leave without BBO giving you a black mark or because you aren't at all compatible

3)Same but after only a few hands. I just say "last 4 me-bye all" and click "back" after that hand ?

Is there a place that explains the etiquette and politeness issues specific to online bridge?

-----thanks Gif

[helene_t]

My humble opinion:

 

You will be sucked into a table where they accept anyone. If they had checked "permision required to play", you would not have been taken to that table.

 

Unless you're dummy (or you're declarer and the auction just finished), first thing to do is to ask for a redeal. Trying to obtain information about the meaning of partner's calls and your own calls in a half-finished auction, or about what cards have been played and what they meant, is a mess.

 

After the redeal (or after the play of the half-finished board), see if you can agree on system and carding. Otherwise, you can just leave without a penalty. In that case, explain the why's in a respectful manner. "Sr, I don't play that system, I will look for another table. Have a nice day".

[ralph23]

Is there a place that explains the etiquette and politeness issues specific to online bridge?

-----thanks Gif

THere is some material on BBO under (I think) "RUles of this Site" but it won't directly address the specific issue that you have raised.