kiaora

Hi I was booted of the table once because the host got a bad board, because of my play and another time the host booted me when I was playing against him and I made a mistake. I find it strange that the host has the total control of the table in these situations. Would it be a good idea that if the table is occupied by 4 players 3 players have to agree with the removal and if only 3 players are present 2 have to ask for the removal of the other player?

Thanks Ben I have been hoping some one would say this. All very nice to say that women have to toughen up and not play stupid games. These are not games they are very serious. All very nice to say that it happens all over the internet. Wait till it happens to you your wife of your kids. I feel that there should be a zero tolerance for stalkers. Indeed BBO has to be a safe place nothing less. I do not expect BBO to have controls beyond the site but if people have acted on BBO as stalkers and there is proof I feel that they should have no place on BBO never again. Like in a life bridge club there has to be a code of ethics and conduct. If I would behave in my bridge club like I have described I am sure to loose my membership.

I posted this to find out the general attitude towards this. Not to solve personal problems. I am not one of his socalled ladies friends. I know this happens on chat sites, but I feel that BBO is not the place for this behaviour.

I have come across a person on BBO who besides playing bridge spends most of his time trying to win the attention of ladies. He always starts his own table, inviting people of his own nationality. He blocks kibitzers and chat so he is in total control. I must say he is a very able charmer and has no problems winning over a number of ladies. He tells the ladies that he loves them and that they are his only love in life. I have been told this by at least 5 ladies and I am sure there are many more. Some really fall for him and have met him. For some it is almost impossible to escape from him. He keeps on chasing them and he makes the ladies very strongly attached. If they try to escape he threatens to disclose the affair to husbands. Some Ladies now log on invisible or under a different name to escape from him. One of the ladies wrote: “ I still have a problem making him my enemy I have told him he is not my friend anymore. Don’t forget he has my mobile number and email address. I feel like a victim. This guy has taken something from me, I will not be so trusting anymore towards men who are nice to me he has taken that from me, while I write this I feel hurt.” Another “I can’t do anything If I try he will be on my doorstep within minutes” Another again “ I am pleased you do something about ------ he is a menace” What could or should be done about this??