To tone down? What? house bridge is played at home. Otherwise, bridge is played in tournaments from club to nationals and international all with specific rules. This is what the new (american wave) has done to the game. Same 'glorification of mediocrity' diluting the values of the game and tainting the beauty of mind creativity that it allows to talented players. I would not accept this ruling, nor suggestion. You have conceded more than you should just because you didn't chase the cheap sensation of narcissism. Others do, and that is their problem. Bottom line. Probably you should find an other club. Regards