I would just like to add my (quiet) voice to the list of objectors to the Friend/Follower list. I'm not a touchy person; but I also don't see the gain to the public information. I actually usually "ask" if I can call someone a friend (hence mutual), but sometimes I forget. An alternative, which I would find actually useful: Just have separate options of "friend" and "follow" (instead of the current friend OR follow). This way, I can separate out those Stars (they're usually stars), who I might like to kibitz if they're on, from people I can ask for a friendly game etc. To repeat, my proposal is: Bring back the "old" friend option -- you just mark someone if you like them for whatever reason. They don't know you've marked them. Bring in a new "follow" system. It's optional if the person being followed knows who's following them. If you want that public, it's not a big deal. The only problem, as I see it, someone has you as a friend, and now KNOWS you don't reciprocate (or vice versa).